Saturday, 24 December 2011

Build your confidence

Confidence is needed in every field that you want to pursue. You can’t not be having confidence in yourself and fighting out the world. This is something just not possible. The single greatest source of mental energy is positive interaction with others. To achieve success at every level- be it school, college, interview, workplace, you have to have confidence in yourself.
How do you plan to build your confidence? Summed up below are just some of the best means of doing the same.

You must schedule your social life. Your social skills would need time to develop. They say practice makes a man perfect, even for the socially secure. By surrounding yourself with others you create a rich supply of opportunities to observe interactions and to improve upon your own social behaviour.

Thinking positive is also very important. Insecure people approach others anxiously, feeling they have to prove that they're interesting. Self-assured people expect others to respond positively despite the fact that one of the most difficult social tasks is to join an activity that is already in progress. Engage yourself in social reconnaissance. The socially competent are highly skilled at information gathering, always scanning the scene for important details to guide their actions. They are tuned in to people's expression of specific emotions and are sensitive to signals that convey such information making them prone to reacting to such things. 

Failure is never bad. Everyone will sometime or the other be rejected. The socially confident don't take rebuffs personally. They don't attribute rejection to internal causes, such as being unlikable or an inability to make friends. Self-assured people become resilient, using the feedback they get to shape another go at acceptance. Managing emotions is another formidable task that one must follow. Social situations are varied and complex at times. People react and non-react to things that matter to us in varied ways. You have to be adaptable and ease with such things. No one can do all that without a reasonable degree of control over their own emotional states, especially negative emotions such as anger, fear, anxiety, emotions that usually arise in situations of conflict or uncertainty.

Also learn to defuse disagreements. When many people are together conflicts are inevitable. What is important is to cope with such confrontations. Laughing helps always. Add humour where you think the conversation is going awry. Humour is liked by one and all. It is the most prized social skill. Just create humour from anywhere and you will become the centre of attention in a crowd.

Self Awareness

What is self awareness?  It is having a clear perception of your personality, including your strengths, weaknesses, thoughts, beliefs, motivation, and emotions. Self Awareness allows you to understand other people, how they perceive you, your attitude and your responses to them in the moment. It helps you judge the world and yourself through the same pair of eyes.

As you develop self awareness you are able to make changes in the thoughts and interpretations you make in your mind. Changing the interpretations in your mind allows you to change your emotions. Self awareness is one of the attributes of Emotional Intelligence and an important factor in achieving success. This is why you need self awareness in your life. It is the first step in creating what you want and mastering it. Where you focus your attention, your emotions, reactions, personality and behavior determine where you go in life. Thus, self awareness shows you direction in life.
Having self awareness allows you to see where your thoughts and emotions are taking you. It also allows you to see the controls of your emotions, behavior and personality so you can make changes you want. Until you are aware of the things that controls your thoughts, emotions, words, and behavior, you will have difficulty making changes in the direction of your life. Self awareness helps you get versed with these things.

Relationships are easy unless there is emotional turmoil. This is the same whether you are at work or in your personal life. When you can change the interpretation in your mind of what you think you can change your emotions and shift the emotional quality of your relationships. Having a clear understanding of your thought and behavior patterns helps you understand other people. This ability to empathize facilitates better personal and professional relationships. You must develop Self Awareness that is developed through practices in focusing your attention on the details of your personality and behavior.

Making changes in your behavior is much easier to do when you catch them early in the dynamic, before the momentum of thought and emotion has gathered steam. The changes in your mind and behavior become simple when you develop your own means of self awareness. It makes you versed with the public and the reality of life. You can never afford to go wrong if you are fully aware of yourself. 

Saturday, 3 December 2011

Power of Expressions

What are expressions? ‘Expression’ comes from the word ‘express’. To express is to give shape to the thoughts, emotions and feelings inside us. Most of us cry when we need to express sadness, grief or for that matter disappointment. When we are happy, we express it through our smile and laughter.

Expressions are an essential component of the life of every human being on this earth. All of us have the right to express. We have nothing but our expressions through which we have achieve a balance between our physical and mental being. Expressions are God’s gift to give life to our thoughts and feelings. However, all of us are not good at expressing ourselves. Some of us find it very difficult to express ourselves be it sadness or joy. This is mainly because we ourselves have created a barrier within us. We are always bogged down by what the world thinks of us. Due to this our actions are restrained. However, one must realize the fact each and every individual is unique. It is only when we are able to freely express ourselves that we will be able to enjoy our life.

Our mind is at peace when we express ourselves freely. We become better at our communication. Not expressing what one feels leads to increased frustration and this in turn results in decreased efficiency. Sometimes, we do not express ourselves especially anger because we feel we might hurt someone. However, what about hurting your soul within? You must not vent out your anger by harming someone however, if you are angry, you can let the other person know by open communication that you were angry because you did not like something. This helps to stay clear of any kind of misunderstandings. 

There are some people who find it difficult to express their love. You must always appreciate the fact that God has given us senses to express and feel. If you love someone you must let the other person know. Not only this helps in spreading love and happiness but also makes people feel special. Be it anger, frustration, or admiration, it is said that one must express oneself. Let the other person know what you think.

Sometimes, even silence is an expression. In fact it is the most sublime form of expression. More often than not what we can express through silence, we may not be able to express it through words. Silence helps us to rise above the limitations of the mind and heart.

The power of expressions is immense. Some express through their writing, some through singing, some even express without words! But to express is what is important to mankind. It is only through our expressions that we are able to exchange ideas, share thoughts, feel, learn, experience, and believe. Animals have limited form of expressions unlike humans and hence we must make use of our expressions to spread peace, love and harmony. Human beings are truly blessed to be able to express so easily and we must make good use of it! 

Meaning of Life

There are times when many of us sit back and ask ourselves the meaning and the purpose of our life. This philosophical question comes to our mind especially when we seek answers beyond the realm of our routine life. Though this question is answered by many religions across the globe, each and every individual has a unique meaning to their life. However, spiritually, religiously and philosophically the meaning of life is related to concepts of God, existence, karma, happiness, conduct, etc. A humanitarian answer to the purpose and the meaning of life is to live a good life by imbibing values like generosity, honesty, sincerity, morality etc.

It is natural to ask oneself the following questions: What is the meaning of life? What kind of a person I am? Where have I come from? Why have I been born? What is the origin of life? What is the purpose of my existence? What will happen after death? What is the significance of life? And many more such questions arise when we think about the true meaning of our life…

Most of us question the meaning and the purpose of our life especially when we are unhappy and depressed. There are many people who feel that there is no purpose to their life because they feel useless and unimportant. However they forget that this is just a phase of life. Every human being has a purpose to be born on this planet. The true meaning of life is to identify that purpose. No one can identify that purpose for you but it is that which makes you happy, it is that which contributes to development and progress, it is that that makes this world a better place to live in, it is that which spreads happiness, it is that purpose which truly makes you live and experience life in all possible ways.

On a more practical purpose, the meaning of life is some is to contribute something to the society, for others is to be creative, for some it may be to acquire wealth, to be powerful, and for some it may be to stay happily with friends and family. In general the meaning of life is to experience it, to feel all different emotions and to spread love and harmony. Each man and each woman creates their own essence of life which is not determined by anyone.

There are many theories that propose the meaning of life. Different philosophies highlight different aspects of the meaning and the purpose of life. One theory called Legalism suggests that it is futile to think about finding the purpose of life. To this set of believers, only practical knowledge was valuable, which is related to the function and performance especially that of the state. According to Hinduism, meaning of human life consists of love, desire, wealth, prosperity, righteousness, duty, morality, virtues, ethics, beliefs, truth and above all liberation from the cycle of birth and death. According to another theory, the true meaning of life may is to be able to use our body to achieve self-realization and bliss.